Thriving In A Relationship:

• HEAR each other - don’t just listen, hear your person. Hearing someone is a new level of communication. Can you hear me now?

• Work on being happy as individuals - If you aren't happy as an individual, how much happiness can you bring to the relationship as a whole.

• Encourage Growth - lift the other person up to become more. To be more. This doesn’t mean they are going to become too much, it just means they will be that much better for themselves and in turn, your relationship. Plus, it’s like doing squats in the soul. Squats will strengthen your legs and butt! Lifting up your person will create strength in your soul and relationship! Just as good and you don’t even have to stand up!

• Inspire each other - Believe in your person, inspire them to reach, to create goals, to live their best life and wildest dreams. (okay, maybe not their wildest dreams cause some people freakier than others, but you get what I’m saying)

• AVOID gossip to each other - what does any sort of gossip really built? It’s okay if you need to vent about something that happened or something that someone may have done. When it turns into gossip though, that’s some negative shit right there. So at that point, it’s time to pause.

• Have uncomfortable conversations - (they will get easier to where they are no longer uncomfortable) - This part sucks, uncomfortable conversations suck. Finding a safe place to communicate though, that doesn’t suck. Then those uncomfortable conversations are like a warm heated blanket on a winter’s evening.

• Cry together - really, just let it go. When was the last time you held your person for 120 seconds. Just held them, felt them, took their pain away. Cried….

• Go to therapy together or separately - Therapists are pretty much real life super heroes, they should have an F’in came tucked in somewhere. Or a wand. Or like, spidey senses or something.

• Don’t have secrets - psssst, I need to tell ya something. Really though, stop with all the secrets. Secrets are toxic because one of two things will happen. You will either need to remember your lies or you will get caught. Therapy sessions won’t be as fun then, that superhero will turn into an evil sorcerer having to get through some dark shit before the sun can shine again,

• Be Individuals - don’t stop doing YOU things. It’s okay to do things apart. You’ll have stories and thoughts and all the things to share when you’re back together.

• Go on Dates - This can be done right in your home with game night or a weekly repeat of trying new restaurants . Or even something somewhere brand new, even a simple hike. BUT KEEP GOING ON DATES.

• Appreciate Each Other - Take time to show your partner you appreciate them. It doesn’t have to be something big, the smallest token of appreciation can lift your person right up!

• Connect Daily - Like every day, you can do this, we are all so busy - it’s insane. Wake up, jump in the race, go go go, come home, dinner, emails, collapse. Would you just stop already! Giving yourselves even 5 minutes of uninterrupted time together will be a reward in the end. Don’t have time? Wake up earlier, go for a walk together, have coffee together. No devices.

• LOVE - YOUR LOVE DESERVES ALL OF THIS!
  
  I believe in you ~Tim

  

  
  
  

If you love your person you’ll share this with them…